Deployment Love Dare day 3

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. —Romans 12:10

Today's dare was to buy something for your spouse that shows that you were thinking of them. Well short on a address I decided to send an e-card that let him know how much I was thinking of him. I think he really liked and it felt good to send it to him. Being nice and not saying negative things is going well as well as letting him know I appreciate the things he is doing while over there such as enduring hot weather, not getting enough sleep and being away from us. His scarf ice means a lot to me.

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. — Philippians 2:3,4

Deployment Love Dare day 2

Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. —Ephesians 4:32

Kindness is love in action. If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance. Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a blessing. One is preventive, the other proactive. These two sides of love are the cornerstones on which many of the other attributes we will discuss are built" This is what today's dare was about. It talks about how Patience will in turn show kindness. The challenge was to say something kind to your spouse and I did just that. I told Stan that I was thankful that he sacrificed his time with his children and myself in order to provide for us. Needless to show he was shocked that i said something like that. I like that, I hope I made him feel good about himself. Not only were we suppose to say something kind but we were also suppose to practice still being patient. I feel i did pretty good on this challenge. It also states you will never learn to love if you do not demonstrate kindness. I feel if i keep continue to Thank Stan and be kind and patient with him that this can bring our marriage very far. Last night I had a great talk with a close friend about some of our issues. The advice I was given was to read my bible and the verses about marriage and to also read Proverbs and to pray. If i work on me and pray then hopefully these other things will fall into place. I think we can salvage our marriage but its going to require lots of work and prayer.

An anxious heart weighs a man down but a kind word cheers him up. — Proverbs 12:25

Deployment Love Dare day 1

Day 1:

Here is today’s dare during deployment: In email, phone, or letter—do not say or write anything critical or negative. Even if you are on the receiving end of a verbal attack, choose to be quiet.

Today's dare is to say nothing negative to your spouse. It talks about how anger is usually the result of disappointment or grief. I think this is very true many of my underlying issues of being angry at Stan do come from me feeling that my needs are not meet. It also talks about being patient with one another. This is someting that i can truly learn and know i need to work on. I always let things stress me out and I tend to loose my patience very quickly with Stan and with the Children this is something that I want to continue to work on this year and make myself a better person.

"The practice of patience will foster a peace and quiet. . . . Patience is where love meets wisdom. . . . Patience helps you give your spouse permission to be human. . . . It gives you the ability to hold on during the tough times in your relationship rather than bailing out under the pressure.”

I can see how patience will help provide my home with so much more than it has now. It will allow my children to know that they can make mistakes. But most of all it will let Stan know that if he messes up, forgets something or has a bad day. That i will in return be patient with him and try to understand. When Stan cant meet my need right away or I am upset that he didnt do something that I wanted him to do. It will simply help to talk to him and not lash out.


Verse of the day:

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. —Ephesians 4:2